Gentle Parenting 101

Author: Chandler Rockward

Mama Khronicles Master Storyteller & Mother of two

(3-minute read)

A mother's role is pivotal in shaping a child's behavior through guidance and nurturing. As mother’s, we often serve as the primary caregivers and emotional anchors in our children(s) life(lives). In motherhood we play a crucial role in modeling behaviors, teaching social skills, and instilling core values that build our children’s emotional foundations early in life.

Through empathetic communication and active listening, we can understand their needs, fears, and aspirations, enabling them to guide behavior with sensitivity and respect. But what does this look like in terms of parenting and behavior guidance? What’s the best approach? Is there one approach that is better than another? Let’s delve further into this and focus on one specific parenting approach: gentle parenting. 

In recent years, the concept of gentle parenting has gained traction as an alternative approach to raising children. Rooted in empathy, communication, and understanding, this parenting style seeks to foster a strong parent-child connection while respecting the child's autonomy (freedom of choice). Let's delve into the current landscape of gentle parenting, exploring statistics, benefits, and potential drawbacks.

Research and statistics on the prevalence of gentle parenting are challenging to obtain and still in the stages of early research, anecdotal evidence (written evidence based on personal observations) and parenting forums suggest a growing interest in this approach. Online communities dedicated to gentle parenting, such as forums and social media groups, continue to expand, indicating a rising curiosity and adoption of this parenting style.

What Does Gentle Parenting Look Like?

Strong Emotional Bonding: Gentle parenting emphasizes an emotional connection, promoting a secure attachment between parent and child. Research shows that secure attachments are linked to positive emotional and social development in children.

Enhanced Communication Skills: By prioritizing open communication and active listening, gentle parenting encourages children to express themselves. This can contribute to the development of strong communication skills, which are essential for healthy relationships later in life.

Positive Behavior Modeling: Gentle parents often lead by example, demonstrating kindness, empathy, and problem-solving. Children raised in such environments are more likely to emulate these positive behaviors in their own interactions.

Resilience Building: Gentle parenting encourages a supportive environment where children can learn from mistakes and challenges. This helps in building resilience, as opposed to an environment focused on punishment.

Respect for Autonomy: Gentle parenting respects a child’s autonomy and encourages independence within appropriate boundaries. This approach promotes a sense of self-worth and self-efficacy in children as they learn to make choices and decisions.

Is This the Best Parenting Style to Use?

Finding a balance for children to feel comfortable in different environments can be a delicate task. Striking the right balance between empathy and setting boundaries is crucial for success. Parents practicing gentle parenting may face criticism or judgment from others who don't fully understand or appreciate this approach. It can be draining over time, but it’s important to remember the goals you have for yourself as a parent and for your child. If the gentle parenting style speaks to you, embrace it! 

One thing we should keep in mind is the impact that gentle parenting can vary based on individual circumstances, the child’s temperament, and the family’s dynamics. As the use of the parenting style grows, we must remember that our experiences and our core values make us the mother’s that we are. One mother’s parenting style is no better than the other. We all do what we have to do, and we do the best we can.

The message:

Motherhood is about finding a balance that aligns with your child's needs and the needs of your family. Our influence extends beyond setting boundaries; it encompasses the emotional intelligence, resilience, and a sense of empathy for our children as we continue laying the groundwork and foundation in their lives.